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Honest thoughts on intimacy, connection, and faith in marriage — written to meet you right where you are.
The Invisible Scorecard: Is Keeping Score Killing Your Intimacy?
Do the following statements or internal dialogue sound familiar? “I initiated sex the last three times.” “I'm always the one apologizing first.” “I've been affectionate all week, and you still don't want to have sex!” “I planned our last date night, did the laundry, and took…
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"I Would Never Do That": How Sin Leads to Death in Marriage
I just finished reading an article about a jury's GUILTY verdict in the Caleb Flynn case. If you've not been following it, this is yet another story of a husband murdering his wife in order to "be with his mistress". There have been many of these similar stories. Sometimes it's…
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Football Season and Marriage: Don't Let Football Sideline Your Intimacy
When I first met my husband, little did I know that football would become the third wheel in our relationship. He was head over heels for it, while I couldn't care less. I started feeling like a football widow, and I just couldn't wrap my head around why he didn't see my point.…
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Sexless Marriage: Why It Happens and How to Rebuild Intimacy
"How did we get here?" Couples on their honeymoon never imagine it would happen. Afterall, how could they see all the events of life that would add up over time that culminate into living more like roommates than lovers. "Is something wrong with us?" It feels like you're the…
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Why Christians Need to Stop Avoiding the Topic of Sex
Everybody squirms and starts dripping sweat from their foreheads whenever the topic of sex is mentioned in any context within the church. I have felt the tension in the air so thick that I could cut the air with a knife and serve it as a piece of cake to everybody in fellowship…
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15 Questions to Deepen Sexual Intimacy with Your Spouse in Marriage
Building healthy sexual intimacy in marriage takes intentional effort from both spouses. We all know that media paints a picture that is the exact opposite of effort, so sometimes we need to fight the urge to believe amazing sex should come naturally if we love our spouses or…
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When Intimacy Feels Like Failure
It's natural for humans to avoid pain points in their lives. We all sometimes just want to bury our head in the sand when things aren't going well. We do this because it can feel unbearable to face consequences, uncomfortable to face failure, disappointing to realize things…
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The Threat of False Intimacy
I recently listened to a secular podcast on love and sexuality, where the discussion revolved around the rise of AI companionship. This conversation highlighted how an increasing number of people are turning to AI for emotional support, counsel, and, for some, even sexual…
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The Intimacy Multiplier: Practicing Gratitude
Imagine feeling 100 percent happy, fulfilled, and getting everything you desire in your marriage! While reality might not always align with our expectations, and our spouse can't meet every single one, that's okay! Relationships can be challenging, with conflicts and…
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Bold Enough to Grow
I just read an incredible news article about a woman named Alex. She had an enormous following on social media thanks to her expertise in tarot readings and occult practices. I watched her video, which she shared with all her followers, announcing that she was closing her…
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GPS for Husbands: Navigating Her Design
I'm sure you've had some sexual anatomy 101 courses in school. Think of what it would be like to have more of an anatomy 401 understanding and skill level. We're going to take a deep dive into this because it's really important to understand your spouse's body. Becoming a…
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The Stress-Sex Connection Every Married Couple Should Understand
Guess what? We're all in this together, feeling overwhelmed and stressed almost daily, and it's a big reason why there's a rise in reports of dissatisfaction with marital sex. But there's hope! Imagine this: you come home from work, and it's like you've been hit by a whirlwind…
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Visualization Practices for Intimacy
In my coaching practice, I absolutely love using the incredible tool of imagery to empower individuals to conquer the challenges they face! For couples navigating the path of healing from betrayal, imagery helps them vividly envision a future where devastation is transformed…
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The Importance of Aftercare
Making love with your spouse can have all kinds of flavors. Sometimes you may take things beautifully slow and romantic and speak sweet nothings into one another's ears. You might feel completely emotionally and spiritually connected the whole time and just bask in the…
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Wisdom and Sex
I started reading in the book of Proverbs again this morning, and I love knowing that it's the book known as the book of wisdom, written by King Solomon, the wisest earthly king to live in biblical times. It's clear in this book that the overall message is that the minds that…
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How Self-Criticism Ruins Intimacy
When you're critical of yourself.......we are focused on YOURSELF. That means your thoughts are not on the emotional connection with your spouse, but rather you're in your head, thoughts swirling around that steal the joy of becoming one flesh with your spouse during intimate…
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Remove the Mask
There's a quiet habit that many people carry into relationships, one that feels safe, maybe even necessary. We wear masks, which make us outwardly feel protected, but actually, they cost us the very thing we're trying to preserve. These emotional masks become a version of…
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How to Use Pomegranates to Build Desire
Pomegranates are like the divas of the fruit world—glamorous and pricey, and they make you work for their company. But hey, who can resist their juicy allure? On a trip to Israel, I discovered that these fancy fruits are VIPs in the Israeli Jewish culture. They're not just…
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How Mature Is Your Intimacy? Signs You’re Ready for Deeper Connection
One of my biggest missions as an intimacy coach besides helping individuals develop their intimacy with Christ as their first priority, is to see couples grow in their maturity in how they have sex with their spouse. I believe that there is a high prevalence of immature…
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Are Sex Toys ok in Christian Marriage?
Sex Toys in Marriage: Connection, Conviction, and Cultivating Intimacy In conversations about sexual intimacy within marriage, few topics stir as much curiosity and tension as the use of sex toys. For some couples, they feel like a helpful tool to enhance pleasure and explore…
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